"I am engaged to someone who cleans the house, cooks, takes care of our dog, but has absolutely zero passion or initiative in the bedroom. Lately I have been fantasizing about her best friend who does not cook or clean but oozes sex and has a great body. I know it is wrong so why can't I stop myself?"

Sex is a major part of a marriage. People get written off as 'pigs' or 'shallow' for it, and yeah it's not the whole marriage but whatever's going on (or not going on) in the background sure affects everything else. Address this now, and decide if it's gonna work. See what she's willing to try, and what you're willing to do. If it's not addressed now, resentment will build over the years and eat you up from the inside out.

I am engaged to someone who cleans the house, cooks, takes care of our dog, but has absolutely zero passion or initiative in the bedroom. Lately I have been fantasizing about her best friend who does not cook or clean but oozes sex and has a great body. I know it is wrong so why can't I stop myself?

Turn and run- do not marry this girl!! If you want someone to cook and clean you can hire a maid, but being stuck in a passionless relationship will eat your life away little by little, trust me I did it for 5 years before getting up the nerve to leave.

To anyone who has stuck it out with an alcoholic spouse or one with an eating disorder...I've done both too. My first wife had anorexia first and then bulimia later. Her drinknig came and went but the whole time she had an alcoholic type personality. Her moods were horrendous. No amount of counseling helped. The kids were afraid of her and I was at my wit's end. Splitting up was a big mess but honestly, if we hadn't split I would have ended up in a mental hospital. I feel for anyone who is dealing with that shit. Hope you can get out of it someday. And DON'T let her get pregnant!!!!

medication gave me my wife back. she realized she had a super short fuse and that we were arguing more for no damn reason and she fixed it. thank GOD.

We wrote the first draft of our daughter's eulogy today.

***I can't even imagine your pain. I will say a prayer for you and your family.***

" We wrote the first draft of our daughter's eulogy today. "

I'm so sorry.

We wrote the first draft of our daughter's eulogy today. ...I am so sorry. I could not imagine ever going through that,

We wrote the first draft of our daughter's eulogy today.

*Very sorry for your loss.

my six year old daughter told me who she is going to marry when she grows up. Her mother pointed to me and said "we need to move as soon as possible".

"We wrote the first draft of our daughter's eulogy today."

Maybe this will make some of these "fathers" who complain about their kids open their eyes..

I'm so so very sorry to hear about your loss. I really am. I have no idea, and would never want to find out, how that would feel like. My prayers to you and your wife.